It’s not good that man should be alone.

A youth minister shares an experience with his wife while in New York City and the importance of having a marriage centered on the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Recently, my wife Erin and I shared a special moment during our short stay in the Big Apple. Erin was on assignment with a nurse staffing agency, allowing me to take in the sights and scenery. Unbeknownst to us, however, this trip would uniquely shape and strengthen us in ways we never imagined. The following video represents one of those moments for us.

Although it may be a nice video, Erin and I were desperate for God in that moment. I was discouraged during this period for a number of reasons, one of them being unemployment. My wife knew that. She knew it well, and during this recording I felt so unimportant. I was in the middle of Times Square watching tons of peoples’ paths cross and intersect. I kept thinking to myself:

God, do you see all of these people? They matter! The pain they may be experiencing, or confusion, it all matters. Do you see this God?

Inside, I was really asking, though:

God do you see me? Do I matter in the midst of all these people? If anything happened to Erin and I, would you see to our safety?

The video was only 27 seconds, but it felt like a lifetime of loneliness and depression to me. It was what I refer to as an “all-time low.” (I’m dramatic sometimes). My wife – the rock and encourager that she is – grabbed my hand, leaned in, and prayed over me.

Of course I was fighting to hold back tears, but instantly, God reminded me of the necessity of community. I couldn’t imagine navigating that space without my wife. Although, she’s not just a wife; she loves Jesus and she loves me. She’s a Christian and her faith is active, especially in our marriage, making me a priority like Jesus made on the cross. She reminded me of the value that Christ had instilled in me and she interceded for me. It was an instant all time favorite moment of mine.

What I hope to be reminded of in this video is two facts:

  1. In marriage, it’s crucial for spouses to intercede and lift the other up. Anticipate those moments like my wife did. Anticipate God speaking, leading, and molding your spouse to the image of Christ. Prayer will be your compass in navigating difficult seasons. Let prayer be the answer to desperation.
  2. In life, it’s crucial to have community. Had my wife not been there, who knows how I would have coped with the loneliness. Selfishly I may have looked inward for help instead of outward. Don’t pass up the opportunity to reach out – you may discover others in the same situation as you who are looking to not feel or be so lonely.

As the Lord says from the beginning of His Word, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18, ESV). 

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